A Sweet New Year

Posted on: September 6th, 2013 by

A new year has begun, according to Jewish custom. Rosh Hashanah – which literally means “head of the year” – has arrived. This is a time for self-reflection and for making peace with ourselves.

We consume apple pieces dipped into honey to ensure a sweet upcoming year. And we throw pieces of bread in a body of water to symbolize the casting away of our sins.

This is a time for hope and inner healing. It’s not a time to consider New Year’s resolutions like losing weight.

Rosh Hashanah is a big deal.

Like so many, I do a lot of soul searching during this holiday, but more than any other year, this year I’ve really taken reflection to heart. Like everyone else, I am not perfect and, yes, I sin.

For this upcoming year, I’ve decided to cast away perhaps the worst sin I’ve ever committed – mistreating myself.

Here are the sins I have been guilty of over the past year. Once I have forgiven myself, then I will hopefully be on a better path to becoming a better person.

Allowing medical fears to assault my mind.
Allowing medical paranoia to affect my judgment.
Postponing doctor appointments and avoiding doctors.

I need to cross the bridge from self-neglect to self-care and self-love. This is what I’m working on over the next year.


Easier said than done.

I have my work cut out for me.

But, then again, I’m hopeful this year may deliver many sweet, unexpected possibilities.

Have you wanted to improve yourself in some way? Please feel free to share your stories.

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13 Responses to A Sweet New Year

  1. Renn had this to say about that:

    These are good goals. I too could use more self-care. Happy New Year, Beth! May there be lots of sweetness along the way.

    • Beth L. Gainer had this to say about that:

      Hi Renn,

      Yes, self-care is just what the patient ordered! We can all benefit from taking the time to take care of ourselves. I hope your life is filled with sweetness, too.

  2. eileen@womaninthehat.com had this to say about that:

    I love Rosh Hashanah because it’s a very spiritual process for me. I always do a lot of self-reflecting and make goals for myself in terms of my growth. For this year, I decided it was time to put all the sadness behind me, from the cancer and everything else I went through the last few years. I decided it’s a new year, a time to turn a corner, to be and do HAPPY. Now that’s a novel concept. At least I’ll take steps in that direction.

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  4. Lori had this to say about that:

    Beautiful post, Beth! Taking care of ourselves – and making a priority of ourselves – is SO hard. But we’ve done harder things…

    Shanah tovah u’metukah! XOX

    • Beth L. Gainer had this to say about that:

      Thanks, Lori. It is, indeed, so challenging to take care of ourselves. I’m determined this year because I find that all the worries about my health are, indeed, detrimental to my health.

      Have a sweet new year!

  5. Facing Cancer Together had this to say about that:

    Happy new year to you :) I love that idea of dipping apples and throwing bread into the water. I’m wishing you a year of self-care, healing in the heart and building whatever dream you’d like realized.

    Be well, Beth :)

    • Beth L. Gainer had this to say about that:


      Yes, the apples and honey will satisfy any sweet tooth. Thank you for the nice wish. I so appreciate it. :)

  6. Jan Hasak had this to say about that:

    I definitely want to improve myself, Beth, but it is so hard, what with my fatigue and pain management. I have a black spot on my cheek that should be checked out to see if it is skin cancer. But I am afraid. I don’t want to know. I already have a stage IV of another type of cancer. Maybe the treatment I’m on will take care of melanoma. But that is denial. Thanks for waking me up to this new year. And new beginnings!! xo

    • Beth L. Gainer had this to say about that:

      Jan, thank you for your comment. Just taking care of yourself is all you need to worry about. I understand that you are afraid to check out that black spot, but not checking it out will give rise to medical paralysis. Take care of yourself and check it out. Fear is often at the root of my medical actions.

      We need to be at the helm and not allow fear to dominate us.

      Take care of yourself, Jan. We all care so very deeply about you.

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