Author Archives: Beth L. Gainer

‘I Bet You’re Proud You Beat Cancer’

Posted on: March 3rd, 2017 by
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These are the words I recently heard from a medical assistant at a neurologist’s office. After providing my extensive paperwork that listed all the medications I was taking, as well as my medical history, this girl was irritating the hell out of me. She kept asking for information that I clearly stated on the medical [Read the full story …]

Heart Is Where the Home Is

Posted on: February 17th, 2017 by
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I’ve been off the grid lately, but not because of writing gridlock. It’s because of exciting news: on February 4, my daughter and I moved into a larger house, one with more than one bathroom (finally, yay!). So instead of writing for the past couple of months, I’ve been packing with the help of my [Read the full story …]

Cosette

Posted on: December 1st, 2016 by
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I’ve been away from the blogosphere for awhile now. What kept me away was a perfect storm of being super busy, the horrific U.S. election and its even more horrific results — and the failing health and recent death of my beloved cat Cosette. It’s fitting I write about Cosette today, as it’s the 10th [Read the full story …]

Bully For Me

Posted on: November 3rd, 2016 by
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Last week was my daughter’s school’s annual anti-bullying rally. Children, their parents/relatives, and school employees all wore blue to show our solidarity with each other against bullying. Our children each carried a blue sign that said, “I take a stand against bullying.” Like many schools, Ari’s elementary school has a “no tolerance for bullying” policy. [Read the full story …]

Embracing Autumn

Posted on: October 21st, 2016 by
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As trees shed their leaves in my part of the US, I have shed my resentment toward a month set aside for pink merchandising and ribbons. In other words, October is no longer “Pinktober” to me. Truth is, October is not to blame for being dubbed Breast Cancer Awareness Month. October is innocent, and that [Read the full story …]

Much Ado About Something

Posted on: October 13th, 2016 by
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Ari and me (left), my brother and sister-in-law and nephew What a summer and fall it’s been thus far! It’s been a busiest-busy time for me with the launch of my new book, Calling the Shots in Your Medical Care. The book was released July … Continue reading the story “Much Ado About Something”

Cancer and the Imagination

Posted on: September 30th, 2016 by
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When I was a teenager, I wished my active imagination would always stay vivid. Unfortunately, that wish came true. *** Being diagnosed and treated for cancer unleashes a maelstrom of emotions. But lately I have been wondering if a cancer experience heightens our imagination. We imagine our deaths. We imagine our physical pain and suffering [Read the full story …]

Book Review: Why is She Acting So Weird?

Posted on: September 23rd, 2016 by
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Cancer is complex: it affects every aspect of a patient’s life — including friendships. As I write this, I recall those friendships that strengthened with my breast cancer diagnosis. And, sadly, I recall those friendships that simply withered away. People react to their friends’ cancer diagnoses in many ways for many reasons. Those who choose [Read the full story …]

No Bra Day Rant

Posted on: September 9th, 2016 by
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I have news for those imbeciles who invented and/or celebrate No Bra Day: I already set my “boobies” free nearly 10 years ago when I had a bilateral mastectomy with reconstruction. I eagerly set them free because they came close to killing me. Ya see, my right “ta-ta” had a malignant tumor in it five [Read the full story …]

Gilda’s Club: A Living Legacy

Posted on: September 2nd, 2016 by
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I was saddened to hear about Gene Wilder’s death this week. For years, he and his wife Gilda Radner filled my heart and the hearts of many with laughter. I was devastated when Radner died of ovarian cancer in 1989. However, Wilder helped provide a living legacy, one that has inextricably bound me to the [Read the full story …]