Author Archives: Beth L. Gainer

Cosette

Posted on: December 1st, 2016 by
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I’ve been away from the blogosphere for awhile now. What kept me away was a perfect storm of being super busy, the horrific U.S. election and its even more horrific results — and the failing health and recent death of my beloved cat Cosette. It’s fitting I write about Cosette today, as it’s the 10th [Read the full story …]

Bully For Me

Posted on: November 3rd, 2016 by
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Last week was my daughter’s school’s annual anti-bullying rally. Children, their parents/relatives, and school employees all wore blue to show our solidarity with each other against bullying. Our children each carried a blue sign that said, “I take a stand against bullying.” Like many schools, Ari’s elementary school has a “no tolerance for bullying” policy. [Read the full story …]

Embracing Autumn

Posted on: October 21st, 2016 by
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As trees shed their leaves in my part of the US, I have shed my resentment toward a month set aside for pink merchandising and ribbons. In other words, October is no longer “Pinktober” to me. Truth is, October is not to blame for being dubbed Breast Cancer Awareness Month. October is innocent, and that [Read the full story …]

Much Ado About Something

Posted on: October 13th, 2016 by
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Ari and me (left), my brother and sister-in-law and nephew What a summer and fall it’s been thus far! It’s been a busiest-busy time for me with the launch of my new book, Calling the Shots in Your Medical Care. The book was released July … Continue reading the story “Much Ado About Something”

Cancer and the Imagination

Posted on: September 30th, 2016 by
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When I was a teenager, I wished my active imagination would always stay vivid. Unfortunately, that wish came true. *** Being diagnosed and treated for cancer unleashes a maelstrom of emotions. But lately I have been wondering if a cancer experience heightens our imagination. We imagine our deaths. We imagine our physical pain and suffering [Read the full story …]

Book Review: Why is She Acting So Weird?

Posted on: September 23rd, 2016 by
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Cancer is complex: it affects every aspect of a patient’s life — including friendships. As I write this, I recall those friendships that strengthened with my breast cancer diagnosis. And, sadly, I recall those friendships that simply withered away. People react to their friends’ cancer diagnoses in many ways for many reasons. Those who choose [Read the full story …]

No Bra Day Rant

Posted on: September 9th, 2016 by
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I have news for those imbeciles who invented and/or celebrate No Bra Day: I already set my “boobies” free nearly 10 years ago when I had a bilateral mastectomy with reconstruction. I eagerly set them free because they came close to killing me. Ya see, my right “ta-ta” had a malignant tumor in it five [Read the full story …]

Gilda’s Club: A Living Legacy

Posted on: September 2nd, 2016 by
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I was saddened to hear about Gene Wilder’s death this week. For years, he and his wife Gilda Radner filled my heart and the hearts of many with laughter. I was devastated when Radner died of ovarian cancer in 1989. However, Wilder helped provide a living legacy, one that has inextricably bound me to the [Read the full story …]

Go With the Flow

Posted on: August 25th, 2016 by
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Many people whose lives are affected by cancer or any other serious illness — whether former/current patient or caregiver — often experience depression and anxiety. Psychotherapy, psychotropic medications, EMDR, and guided imagery are just some tools that can be effective at combatting intense emotional stress. These and more options can be discussed with medical … [Read the full story …]

Six Mistakes to Avoid as a Patient

Posted on: August 18th, 2016 by
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I’ve been thinking a lot about medical-related mistakes. Not mistakes that doctors make, but those that we patients sometimes make. While being diagnosed and treated for a devastating disease, patients can and do make mistakes. After all, a serious disease puts us in a hurly burly of medical decision-making and is tough medicine indeed. Now [Read the full story …]