Author Archives: Beth L. Gainer

Cancer and the Imagination

Posted on: September 30th, 2016 by
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When I was a teenager, I wished my active imagination would always stay vivid. Unfortunately, that wish came true. *** Being diagnosed and treated for cancer unleashes a maelstrom of emotions. But lately I have been wondering if a cancer experience heightens our imagination. We imagine our deaths. We imagine our physical pain and suffering [Read the full story …]

Book Review: Why is She Acting So Weird?

Posted on: September 23rd, 2016 by
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Cancer is complex: it affects every aspect of a patient’s life — including friendships. As I write this, I recall those friendships that strengthened with my breast cancer diagnosis. And, sadly, I recall those friendships that simply withered away. People react to their friends’ cancer diagnoses in many ways for many reasons. Those who choose [Read the full story …]

No Bra Day Rant

Posted on: September 9th, 2016 by
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I have news for those imbeciles who invented and/or celebrate No Bra Day: I already set my “boobies” free nearly 10 years ago when I had a bilateral mastectomy with reconstruction. I eagerly set them free because they came close to killing me. Ya see, my right “ta-ta” had a malignant tumor in it five [Read the full story …]

Gilda’s Club: A Living Legacy

Posted on: September 2nd, 2016 by
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I was saddened to hear about Gene Wilder’s death this week. For years, he and his wife Gilda Radner filled my heart and the hearts of many with laughter. I was devastated when Radner died of ovarian cancer in 1989. However, Wilder helped provide a living legacy, one that has inextricably bound me to the [Read the full story …]

Go With the Flow

Posted on: August 25th, 2016 by
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Many people whose lives are affected by cancer or any other serious illness — whether former/current patient or caregiver — often experience depression and anxiety. Psychotherapy, psychotropic medications, EMDR, and guided imagery are just some tools that can be effective at combatting intense emotional stress. These and more options can be discussed with medical … [Read the full story …]

Six Mistakes to Avoid as a Patient

Posted on: August 18th, 2016 by
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I’ve been thinking a lot about medical-related mistakes. Not mistakes that doctors make, but those that we patients sometimes make. While being diagnosed and treated for a devastating disease, patients can and do make mistakes. After all, a serious disease puts us in a hurly burly of medical decision-making and is tough medicine indeed. Now [Read the full story …]

Self-Love, Self-Care

Posted on: August 11th, 2016 by
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Last week, I participated in a #patientchat Twitter chat centered on what having a “quality of life” means to each of the participants. And that got me thinking about what constitutes a good life. For me, quality of life is defined by self-love and self-care. Of course, carving out a quality life is an … [Read the full story …]

‘Everything Happens for a Reason’

Posted on: August 2nd, 2016 by
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I have many pet peeves in Cancerland. During my diagnosis and treatment, people told me to stay positive. Well, this advice harmed me, as I needed to cry and feel miserable. Those who told me to stay positive negated my fears and denied my feelings. Other individuals spouted that God couldn’t give me more than [Read the full story …]

Party’s On!

Posted on: July 23rd, 2016 by
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While my book, Calling the Shots in Your Medical Care, officially launched July 5, I figured, what is a book launch without a party? I will be hosting a book launch party on Saturday, July 23, which will include a reading, discussion, and a book signing. Refreshments will be provided. If you are in … [Read the full story …]

15 More Random Facts About Me!

Posted on: July 15th, 2016 by
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Last year, I participated in a 15 Random Facts About Me blogging challenge, where I posted random facts about me. I got the idea from Nancy Stordahl’s 15 Random Facts & A Blogging Challenge Too! So when Nancy posted 15 Random Facts, Round Two, & Another Blogging Challenge! this week, where she … Continue reading [Read the full story …]