Author Archives: Beth L. Gainer

Straying the Course

Posted on: March 4th, 2016 by
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I’m the kind of person who always starts what I finish. When I have a goal in sight, nothing — and I mean nothing — deters me. I am willing to do what it takes to stay the course. I am not a quitter, not by any stretch of the imagination. But I quit taking [Read the full story …]

Random Acts of Kindness

Posted on: February 17th, 2016 by
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“In the end only kindness matters.” — Jewel, “Hands” Last week, I participated in a tweetchat about the value of kindness in medicine. While this topic is a no-brainer — yes, doctors and patients should be kind to each other — unkindness is rampant in medicine. Being on the patient side of things, I’ve seen [Read the full story …]

Let’s Talk Bones

Posted on: February 8th, 2016 by
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A few weeks ago found me en route to Florida again, this time for an extended weekend. While I wish I could say the weather and a relaxing vacation were beckoning, I came to the subtropics to comfort my mother, visit my father in the rehabilitation center, and meet with rehab staff. As you know, [Read the full story …]

10 Ways to Cope With PTSD

Posted on: January 26th, 2016 by
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Going through cancer and its treatments causes physical collateral damage, but the debilitating psychological impact of cancer is not as often discussed — particularly Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). I know this firsthand, as my readers know. I’m a card-carrying PTSD member. I first disclosed my struggles with this disorder a year ago, and have [Read the full story …]

Setting the Bar Low

Posted on: January 8th, 2016 by
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This year, my goal – not my resolution – on fitness is to set the bar low. I was never a super athlete. But prior to cancer, I was in great shape and enjoyed exercise. Now, after years of grieving what I’ve lost, I have finally accepted my physical limitations and, with some creativity, have [Read the full story …]

Mindfulness, Uncertainty, and Courage

Posted on: December 30th, 2015 by
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As I write this, my brother and I are on an emergency trip to Florida. Our dad broke a hip. *** Also suffering from Parkinson’s Disease and dementia, our dad had surgery and is now in a rehabilitation center. The future is uncertain. And I am scared. My mom is also understandably frightened about what [Read the full story …]

20 Mindful Experiences

Posted on: December 18th, 2015 by
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The holidays are wonderful, but all too often our society is so caught up by decorations and gift-giving that we forget to slow down and appreciate the beauty of quiet mindfulness. Don’t get me wrong: I enjoy giving and receiving gifts. But here are 20 priceless experiences that cause me to pause – and take [Read the full story …]

Running On Empty

Posted on: December 11th, 2015 by
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Pressure. I’m under the pressure of living up to others’ expectations of what a cancer survivor should be. Over the years, well-meaning people’s comments have stirred these feelings — from saying I was courageous to have faced cancer to telling me there was a divine reason I survived. Got Courage? I don’t. I want to [Read the full story …]

My Caregivers

Posted on: November 21st, 2015 by
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It’s November, National Family Caregivers Month. I don’t usually write about months attributed to certain causes, but in this case — and in the spirit of the upcoming Thanksgiving holiday in the US — this is a chance to honor those who took such excellent care of me during cancer diagnosis and treatment. As my [Read the full story …]

Tami Greenfield Boehmer

Posted on: November 11th, 2015 by
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We didn’t always agree. Tami Greenfield Boehmer was more hopeful than I was. So much more hopeful, in fact, that she wrote a book titled From Incurable to Incredible: Cancer Survivors Who Beat the Odds and another book titled Miracle Survivors: Beating the Odds of Incurable Cancer. Despite my skepticism about the idea that a [Read the full story …]