“So, how is your relationship now that you have breast cancer?” asks the cancer wellness program intake worker. My husband and I are holding hands. “I would say it’s stronger; we’ve become closer than ever,” I tell her. “Great!” the intake worker enthusiastically responds. “Cancer can strengthen the bond between couples. Luckily, that is the case for you both as well.” I’m relieved. I half believe the feel-good lie … Continue reading the story "First Comes Breast Cancer, Then Comes Divorce"
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"You just have to get over it." "You need to get beyond this thing." "You should move on." These are just some of the well-meaning comments that well-meaning people have told me over the years. … Continue reading the story "Getting Over ‘It’"
As I write this, a very good friend is battling Leukemia. We communicate regularly, and I have visited her between her hospital visits at a time when she was feeling pretty decent. I call her occasionally when she's living at the hospital for five weeks at a time getting chemotherapy and every other therapy imaginable.I cannot bear the possibility … Continue reading the story "How to Treat a Person Treated by Illness"
This posting is geared to those of us who know and possibly love someone struggling with a serious medical condition, such as diabetes, cancer, heart disease, and so on. The list goes on and on. Whatever the condition, though, they all have one thing in common: the afflicted person needs support from people -- from acquaintances to his or her nearest … Continue reading the story "Loved Ones: Lend Us Your Ears"