For many in the US, Mother’s Day is a time of celebration. People may reflect on how lucky their lives are to have wonderful mothers and/or children. For others, this holiday is quite somber: too many people have lost their mothers or are even estranged from them. This holiday’s cup runneth over with emotion. Last Mother’s Day was fun for me and filled with celebration. However, this … Continue reading the story "Dancing Alone on Mother’s Day"
Post Archives from the ‘Cancer’ Category
Calling the Shots in Your Medical Care is about to launch in just a couple of months. And, with the excitement building, I feel a sense of purpose and urgency and certainty that this is the right time for the book to make its debut. But I haven't been so sure this is the right time to tell Arielle that mommy had breast cancer. As many of … Continue reading the story "Book Launches a Heart-to-Heart Talk"
It’s November, National Family Caregivers Month. I don’t usually write about months attributed to certain causes, but in this case -- and in the spirit of the upcoming Thanksgiving holiday in the US -- this is a chance to honor those who took such excellent care of me during cancer diagnosis and treatment. As my readers know, at-home support during the darkest time of my … Continue reading the story "My Caregivers"
I look at the doctor. Worried. Things have not been going well. She remains calm, but it hardly reassures me. Even though I’m not the patient, each visit is traumatic, and I can’t seem to calm down. “Don’t cry in front of her,” I tell myself on most visits, though I know the veterinarian would understand. The patient is Hemi, my tuxedo cat – and his … Continue reading the story "Ups and Downs"
It feels like it happened yesterday, but today is the 14th anniversary of the 9/11 attacks on American soil. That day, people went to work and got on planes, unaware this day would be their last one. Like many, I use this day to reflect about the event -- and this gives me pause to think about what I’m grateful for. So without further ado, … Continue reading the story "10 Things I’m Grateful For"
Pre-cancer, I was sturdy, strong, resilient. I reached far into the sky, living the myth that mortality was far, far away, especially since I took excellent care of my body. Like many young people, I believed I wouldn’t have to confront death for a long time. I had incredible amounts of energy and an amazing memory, and I was in excellent physical shape, being an avid … Continue reading the story "Aging Ungracefully"
I dislike many platitudes when it comes to cancer. The general healthy public likes to give a positive spin to cancer -- especially breast cancer, of course. In fact, so many in our society consider breast cancer the cute, benign sort of cancer, even though it kills and maims. Well-meaning people have tritely referred to my breast cancer experience as a “journey,” as if there’s a … Continue reading the story "No, Cancer is Not a Journey"
“Oooh, that’s one creepy-looking dinosaur!” I told my wide-eyed-but-ready-for-bedtime daughter. “Then read about it, Mommy!” she laughed, pointing at the ferocious dinosaur in one of her favorite books. “Honey, I’m so glad they are extinct.” “Otherwise, they would chase us and eat us?” “Yes, I’m sure.” She yawned. “I’m glad they are extinct, too,” as she rolled over to sleep. It’s now midnight, and I’ve been trying to sleep for hours, … Continue reading the story "Dinosaurs"
Today my 7-year-old daughter is participating in her day camp’s Fourth of July parade. The children will be marching around waving American flags, as they do every year. Ari looks forward to this parade, the fireworks on the Fourth, and she enjoys listening to how the United States gained its independence. Throughout the year, we have discussed how this country is a true melting pot … Continue reading the story "Seeking Independence From Ignorance"