I have many pet peeves in Cancerland. During my diagnosis and treatment, people told me to stay positive. Well, this advice harmed me, as I needed to cry and feel miserable. Those who told me to stay positive negated my fears and denied my feelings. Other individuals spouted that God couldn’t give me more than … Continue reading the story "‘Everything Happens for a Reason’"
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I rested my head against the window, as the train car’s soothing motion lulled other morning commuters to sleep. I was uneasy: It was my first day back to work after cancer treatment had ended, and I was officially a survivor. While I was lucky to have survived thus far, I hadn’t had a clue about … Continue reading the story "Cancer Harbors: A Safe Harbor for Cancer Survivors"
Once upon a pre-breast cancer time, a physician paid me a high compliment. “You do better breast exams than most doctors,” he said. And I think he was right. Every month I performed the same ritual: a thorough breast self-exam, including the look-at-your-breasts-in-the-mirror test. Although I always dreaded the idea of something possibly being wrong, I examined my breasts thoroughly and regularly. Until a breast self exam … Continue reading the story "Re-Acquainting Myself With the Breast Self Exam"
I recently met with advisors regarding financial planning, something so many ordinary people ordinarily do. These gentlemen seemed to care about me, as they assessed my current financial status and my future financial plans. But, of course, there’s a sales pitch. There always is. They recommended I purchase excellent, fantastic, stupendous life insurance. Although I have life insurance at my place of employment, these advisors suggested I obtain … Continue reading the story "Breast Cancer Is No Slam Dunk"
Truth. That’s what you will find in Nancy Stordahl’s memoir Cancer Was Not a Gift & It Didn’t Make Me a Better Person: A Memoir About Cancer as I Know It. The book’s title is telling: Stordahl exposes the ugliness that breast cancer really is. In a culture of pinkwashing and stories about how breast … Continue reading the story "Cancer Was Not a Gift & It Didn’t Make Me a Better Person: A Review"
For many in the US, Mother’s Day is a time of celebration. People may reflect on how lucky their lives are to have wonderful mothers and/or children. For others, this holiday is quite somber: too many people have lost their mothers or are even estranged from them. This holiday’s cup runneth over with emotion. Last Mother’s Day was fun for me and filled with celebration. However, this … Continue reading the story "Dancing Alone on Mother’s Day"
Calling the Shots in Your Medical Care is about to launch in just a couple of months. And, with the excitement building, I feel a sense of purpose and urgency and certainty that this is the right time for the book to make its debut. But I haven't been so sure this is the right time to tell Arielle that mommy had breast cancer. As many of … Continue reading the story "Book Launches a Heart-to-Heart Talk"
It’s November, National Family Caregivers Month. I don’t usually write about months attributed to certain causes, but in this case -- and in the spirit of the upcoming Thanksgiving holiday in the US -- this is a chance to honor those who took such excellent care of me during cancer diagnosis and treatment. As my readers know, at-home support during the darkest time of my … Continue reading the story "My Caregivers"