Like many patients, I detest going to doctors -- especially since cancer entered my life. Whenever I’m in my oncologist’s waiting room I want to bolt out of there, jump in my car, and careen out of the parking garage. It really doesn’t matter that he’s a wonderful doctor and person. I just want to escape. I also experience panic overdrive when I’m with other doctors, … Continue reading the story "Separation Anxiety"
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Wishing everyone a sweet year ahead is a beautiful concept -- whether it’s New Year’s in January or during Rosh Hashanah, which just recently passed. Last year, my goal on Rosh Hashanah was to cast away what I thought was the biggest sin of all -- mistreating myself. My goal last year was to purge myself of the fears that came with doctor appointments … Continue reading the story "Embracing Humanness"
I judged him way before I met him. There I lay, on my sofa, swearing up and down that I would never, could never, ever see an oncologist. I was in limbo. My surgeon told me that day -- Almost-Botched Biopsy Day -- he was pretty sure I had breast cancer. Pretty sure, but not definitely sure. (Two days later, he … Continue reading the story "‘Oncologist’ Turned On a Dime"
My last post focused on the “little” lies people told me to encourage me when newly diagnosed with breast cancer. This post is about another lie, a whopper told by a second-opinion oncologist that threw me into a swirling inferno. The first oncologist I saw was cautiously optimistic that, with the right treatment, I had a decent prognosis. I felt somewhat reassured, but not completely, … Continue reading the story "Go Back to Medical School, Dr. Death"
I’m a relatively content person. Yet doctors’ visits conjure up sadness and fear and grief. Since cancer turned my world upside down, appointments with physicians are so difficult. I appreciate my physicians tremendously. Besides their high competence, they have superior people skills. They talk to me as my doctors, offering sound medical advice, but they don’t treat me like a patient. They treat me like … Continue reading the story "Wearing A Game Face"
Readers of my blog know what I've endured as a cancer patient and my gripes about the medical system and uncaring medical personnel. But there is something I've kept relatively quiet about -- until now. Throughout my treatments, I … Continue reading the story "Heroic Moments"
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Ah, the waiting room. Like many, if not all of you, I've spent long times waiting in the examination room for the doctor to arrive. I've waited as long as an hour, or as short as five minutes. When the wait is short, it's sweet. When the wait is long, well.... It feels like a lifetime, and … Continue reading the story "Re-Examining the Examining Room Wait"
There comes the time when your general doctor refers you to a specialist. Even if the specialist is stellar, you need to make sure you have all your administrative ducks in a row so your appointment can go smoothly, hopefully without surprises. Do call the specialist's office as soon as possible to make an appointment. And when you are on the phone, … Continue reading the story "Seeing a Specialist? Here are Must-Do’s Before Your Appointment"