This has been a sorrowful week in the world. We lost so many to metastatic breast cancer (MBC), including Jody Schoger. Even though I knew she was in hospice, I was still stunned when I received the news that she passed away. And in that finding-out moment, I knew the world was suddenly worse off for not having Jody’s fierce passion, intelligence, kindness, and … Continue reading the story "Jody Schoger and Gratitude"
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Calling the Shots in Your Medical Care is about to launch in just a couple of months. And, with the excitement building, I feel a sense of purpose and urgency and certainty that this is the right time for the book to make its debut. But I haven't been so sure this is the right time to tell Arielle that mommy had breast cancer. As many of … Continue reading the story "Book Launches a Heart-to-Heart Talk"
What better way to celebrate National Poetry Month than to celebrate a book of poetry on breast cancer. The book is not new, but its message continues to be timeless and universal. Fine Black Lines: Reflections on Facing Cancer, Fear and Loneliness by breast cancer survivor Lois Tschetter Hjelmstad is an phenomenal collection of poetry … Continue reading the story "Fine Black Lines"
Pressure. I’m under the pressure of living up to others’ expectations of what a cancer survivor should be. Over the years, well-meaning people’s comments have stirred these feelings -- from saying I was courageous to have faced cancer to telling me there was a divine reason I survived. Got Courage? I don’t. I want to run away from that hero-on-a-pedestal sculpture people have made of me and now … Continue reading the story "Running On Empty"
Pre-cancer, I was sturdy, strong, resilient. I reached far into the sky, living the myth that mortality was far, far away, especially since I took excellent care of my body. Like many young people, I believed I wouldn’t have to confront death for a long time. I had incredible amounts of energy and an amazing memory, and I was in excellent physical shape, being an avid … Continue reading the story "Aging Ungracefully"
I dislike many platitudes when it comes to cancer. The general healthy public likes to give a positive spin to cancer -- especially breast cancer, of course. In fact, so many in our society consider breast cancer the cute, benign sort of cancer, even though it kills and maims. Well-meaning people have tritely referred to my breast cancer experience as a “journey,” as if there’s a … Continue reading the story "No, Cancer is Not a Journey"
When it comes to cause marketing, I thought I’d seen it all -- until I walked into the grocery store the other day. As soon as I walked in, I saw seedless watermelons sporting large pink-ribbon stickers. And to add insult to pink injury, right next to the ribbon the sticker said, “A Sweet Way to Stay Healthy.” This cutesy message strongly implies that watermelon somehow … Continue reading the story "Watermelon for a Cure"
“Oooh, that’s one creepy-looking dinosaur!” I told my wide-eyed-but-ready-for-bedtime daughter. “Then read about it, Mommy!” she laughed, pointing at the ferocious dinosaur in one of her favorite books. “Honey, I’m so glad they are extinct.” “Otherwise, they would chase us and eat us?” “Yes, I’m sure.” She yawned. “I’m glad they are extinct, too,” as she rolled over to sleep. It’s now midnight, and I’ve been trying to sleep for hours, … Continue reading the story "Dinosaurs"
When I was a teenager and young adult, I really took to bowling. It started in high school, when a gym teacher taught us how to bowl with the proper mechanics. I bowled every week with friends and was pretty decent at the sport. Don’t get me wrong: I wasn’t great, not even close. But I had a knack for it -- and even more … Continue reading the story "Bowled Over"
Years ago, I was unleashed onto the world as a cancer “survivor.” You know the type: triumphant, sexy, the poster child of one who fought the good fight and “won.” While many people have typecast me into this role, truth is cancer stole more from me than I can even express in one blog post. This disease took my physical and emotional health … Continue reading the story "Identity Theft"